that’s amore

February 12, 2010

Ok, I’m a sucker for some romance and love.  I can’t help it.  Give me a chick flick over an Oscar winner any day of the week.

As such, writing about love is one of my favorite things to do.  I get a thrill out of watching a relationship unfold and go through all of the awkward and goofy stages, through the intense beginnings of a real romance, and then watch it settle into a mature and timeless love. 

It’s funny because I find myself giggling and getting giddy right along with my characters as they develop a crush or have that first kiss with someone.  It is challenging to try and make it authentic without being over the top. 

I write YA, so teenagers do get that intense, hormone-ridden attack when they first dive into a relationship, so it’s hard to show that without making the character seem vapid or immature.  By the same token, you have to give credit to teenagers and their emotions – they know how they feel and don’t want anyone to tell them otherwise.  I’ve had a crush on my husband since I was thirteen years old and we’ve been dating since I was sixteen, so at least I feel I can relate to a real teenage love.  I did have experiences that I thought were love at the time, but now realize belong in a different pocket, so I can use that, too. 

I also enjoy showing love in a nonromantic way too, such as between a parent and a child.  I think it’s an important element in a piece of writing and one that really needs to be done justice.  I think this has gotten a bit easier since becoming a parent because you don’t quite get a grasp on how much your parents love you until you are one yourself.  I know I didn’t, anyway. 

I hope everyone has a wonderful Valentine’s Day!


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12 Responses to “that’s amore”

  1. FreshHell says:

    Nice. I have also found it easier to write about parents and children now that I’m both and have both. :)

  2. David Zahir says:

    Truth to tell, I’m a big softee myself, at least in terms wanting love to work out. Thanks so much for sharing!

  3. Aimee Laine says:

    I too have the teenage love thing down pat — my hubby and I met when I was 14, he 17 and we’ve been together since. You are so right about teens “knowing” every bit of their emotions. :) And you’re right that you can’t know the love of a child until you have them. So true, so true!! Yeah for love!!

  4. Another chick flick junkie here too. I’m a very late bloomer so the whole teen-aged romance thing eluded me. But as I approach 50, I appreciate the mature perspective I have on this marvelous thing called love. I don’t think I could have written about it gracefully even ten years ago so kudos to you young-un’s who can and especially to those who can capture teen-aged love without making it seem vapid.

    Lovely post.

  5. Sandy Shin says:

    I also love to write romance purely because budding love and happy ending make me insanely happy. :>

    And I think it’s lovely that you’re with somebody you’ve known since you were 13.

  6. Claire says:

    ‘It is challenging to try and make it authentic without being over the top.’ This bit is true for me too. A sort of measuring the sweetness value in the romance. Great post.
    Happy Valentine’s Day to you and yours.

  7. I love the idea of writing about love as a way of reexperiencing it. I’m primarily a non-fiction writer, so this idea is new to me!

  8. BigWords88 says:

    Romance and other genres aren’t mutually exclusive, which is something to keep in mind when you ladies feel the need to chide us males over our viewing habits. I’m willing to label Clarice Starling’s relationship with Hannibal Lektor as somewhat romantic (or at least fueled by a level of mutual intellectual respect which borders on the erotic), and there is a healthy amount of romance in most horror films – okay, maybe not Cherry Falls, but in the better installments of the Elm St. series there are definite glimpses of how deeply the characters feel for each other. When stories are geared towards one element to the exclusion of others (whether it is the romance heavy “chick lit” books or those titles which describe firearms in pornographic detail) the center falls away to reveal the shallow pool from which the work is derived. I have equal disinterest in ultra-feminine and ultra-macho books, because neither fully represents the whole of human existence.

    While you can look at other forms of love (parental bonds are a good step towards the non-exclusive “romance” fascination a lot of people have), you might want to think about the myriad ways in which ‘love’ (small “L”) can present itself. Pets get a lot of care and attention, and they go some way to rounding out character. And in military novels and film there is a certain (though unspoken) love between members of units (call it camaraderie if you must, but the emotional connection is as strong as any other), and even technology has the potential to make us believe we ‘love’ the item (get your mind out of the gutter – I was talking about the way in which everyone goes all gooey over the 360 or the iPhone).

  9. Ann Vevera says:

    Parental love, romantic love, friendship love, pet love…., I am lucky to have all those things.
    But I’m not sure if I love my cell or my computer, but they are pretty darn hard to live without.

  10. I LOVE YA romance! Love is love…from YA to erotica, if there are well developed characters and a touching story, I’m all for it.

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